Tuesday, June 18, 2013

why I don't like Facebook

When Facebook first started, way back when, I was a fan. I liked Facebook. I spent a lot of time on Facebook. We had specific "Facebook pictures" that we took when we were out. Over the last few years, it seems that Facebook has become everything. Totally commercialized and not really fun to me anymore, so I've been avoiding it. At first it went from every day to every other day, then every week, then every couple of weeks, now I can go months without thinking about Facebook. And I'm okay with that... except for the fact that apparently, I'm not good enough friends with you anymore if I don't keep up with you on Facebook. I had to find out a friend of mine was engaged WAY after the fact because she didn't tell me herself. her excuse once I asked was... I put it on Facebook. okay. So i guess I'm not important enough in your life to warrant a freakin text message to hear that you're engaged? nice. And the only place to get updates on my niece and nephews is on Facebook, which is lame. My family and I aren't close enough for a phone call or even an email but sure Facebook is okay. dumb. And my biggest reason for not liking Facebook is totally in my head. Maybe it has to do with my self esteem or something... I'm not sure. But every time I look at Facebook, I get totally jealous and wish for a different life for myself. I know everyone puts up the best things about their lives on Facebook...but still it gets to me. I look at pictures of people and they seem to have it all down, things that I still haven't figured out for myself... kids, jobs, vacations, pets, fun stuff. It just makes me feel like I'm not enough... So I don't like Facebook.

PS I just typed Facebook so many times that it totally looks like it is spelled wrong... does that ever happen to you?


  1. ahhh facebook envy. it happens to all of us. i just read an article that a bunch of christians are facebook friends with this woman who is blessed in everything and shares it with the world. they use her updates to test their level of christian goodness for the day. if they respond negatively to her updates, they know they've got to work on some grace for the day. i thought it was funny. :)

    that said, i think it's really easy to get caught up in the need to post only good things on fb. but i also find it really easy to keep up to date on what's happening with my family and far away friends. however, i find out more about some people from their blogs than from facebook. and aren't blogs just more in depth versions of facebook? a chance to give more back story? your blog could totally be just a space for happy news but you've decided to make it more real. you could do that with facebook. i'll "like" your updates. :)

    i get why you don't use it. but some of us forget there are people that don't use it. and it's unfortunately becoming the common way to communicate with everyone. especially for those who don't have awesome blogs like we do. :)

  2. as a person with only 59 fb friends, i even get annoyed with keeping up with it. some days i want to move everything over to g+, but no one's there. :(

    i also hate ambiguous posts. if you don't want to talk about it, don't post it! augh.